Commitments Demand Dedication

A huge measure of character is how much others can count on us. Make your words count and your actions be true to your heart.

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Deciding to commit to yourself or others is a very serious consideration because it becomes a measure of honor, trust, integrity, and what we are willing to give up in order to accomplish a covenant. A commitment is not to be taken lightly and by all means should be fulfilled if you pledged to do so. However unforeseen circumstances which are out of our control can prevent a follow through and provide an honorable release from a commitment. Conversely, unwarranted departures from commitments will eventually lead to the loss of respect from others.

How many times have you made a commitment and immediately known it was a mistake. Try to commit only to the things you truly care about because commitments require honorable words and actions. Honoring your word is hard work and finding a way to balance life while fulfilling a pledge can be challenging. Obligations require wise use of time and relentless effort to fulfill. Commitments must not be consented to on impulse, they must be thought out and based on honorable intentions and serious dedication regardless of what it takes to fulfill them.

Think about the consequences of a commitment or a request and gauge whether you are up to the task. Is this undertaking something you are prepared to follow through with regardless of the resources, time, or effort required? Is this commitment deserving, and how will complying with this vow affect you personally, professionally, and spiritually? A hasty commitment will ultimately culminate in a critical mistake resulting in failure, hard feelings, or remorse. Never agree to something you are not equipped to do or to something that will dishonor your moral code. If there is any doubt or you are not ready to execute, there is little need to agree to something you are not prepared for.

When things fall apart it’s easy to renege, give up, or not pay due diligence to a covenant that was promised. The consequences of a failed commitment can be intense and the intended delivery may be out of reach due to conflicting ideals, procrastinating, or unforeseen personal events. Backing out of the responsibility to fulfill an obligation is often attributed to not taking time to understand the complexity and requirements necessary to carry out a mission. This error in judgement can become the yardstick others use to measure our integrity. We all make errors in judgement when it comes to commitments, hopefully past mistakes and age brings the wisdom to make better decisions for each new commitment we consider agreeing to.

Commitments can be comforting, calming, scary, and fulfilling. They can initiate a new start in life and prevent unhealthy actions. In order for anyone to be taken seriously they must honor their commitments, otherwise they will not be considered trustworthy. Due diligence is required when making a commitment. Pros and cons must be contemplated and after careful consideration, an informed decision gives the best chance for a successful commitment. A huge measure of character is how much others can count on us. Make your words count and your actions be true to your heart.

 

 

The Despair Of Change

We owe it to ourself to  make a genuine attempt to navigate through changes in our life so we can enjoy peace and harmony in our heart and in the hearts of others.

 

The world we remember from our childhood days has faded into the past and the people we grew up with also changed based on experiences in their life. In fact, we are all changing at this very moment, possibly unaware of the transformation we are going through. Time marches onward with each new moment presenting something different from the last. Change can initially be quite a shock, there is no need to be bitter because it will only make things worse. We have a tendency to be stressed and agitated with any action that is considered out of the norm we are accustomed to. When we look at the present and assess its merit based on recollections of past, it can bring heartache and despair because things are not the same. Whether we like it or not, change will affect us at some point in time, it is part of the natural progression of all things. If we understand that change offers a new set of challenges to deal with, we can take that opportunity to adjust how we manage our life. We can implement a plan to move forward with a new purpose that helps us realize we can alter our life to meet the issues we face.

Change can cause us to become withdrawn, agitated, or remorseful. Its normal to take a little time and do what we must to sort through our emotions, then we should move on with our life. It’s ok to look back and remember the past, but reformation will take us into the future and give us a great opportunity to face tomorrow with a new outlook. Sooner or later we have to deal with change or let it fester until it defeats us. To be defeated is to give up and that unrest will cause us discomfort. If we cannot adapt to change and are unwilling to take the necessary steps to move on, the world will pass us by, leaving us alone and bitter. In the midst of anxiety we should strive to find a benevolent reason to keep marching onward with resolution, determination, strength, and courage.

It’s easy to get stuck in a rut when change occurs. Spinning our wheels will not bring back the past nor will it transport us into the future. It will only stop our momentum, leaving us stuck on one moment in time that can thwart our desire to move on. Irritation and aggravation sets in and our efforts to make amends becomes very frustrating. We are destined to flow gently with developments in our life, just as gentle words and a smile can work wonders and miracles. The sooner we accept change, the sooner our life becomes free from ingrained ideals that robs our happiness, keeps us stirred up, and keeps us from engaging rationally with each other.

When the time comes that we no longer have the urgency to navigate through various changes in our life, we have lost our ability to maximize the present. If we are not in the present, we must be in the past because we have failed to put forth the effort to resolve issues that advance our understanding of developments in our life. Is it ideal to be agitated and unwilling to progress or compromise if change affects our happiness and way of life? I believe it’s better to find a way to maneuver with change for acceptable resolutions than to completely dismiss it. We must live our own life, make our own decisions, and in the end be judged for what we did with our life. We owe it to ourself to  make a genuine attempt to navigate through changes in our life so we can enjoy peace and harmony in our heart and in the hearts of others.

Fight Life Or Understand Life

Who’s responsibility is it to manage our own adult life, our children’s future, and our grandchildren’s future, because life will surely become what we have been taught.

Many people live life carrying out an endless fight with every circumstances they face.  That’s how they were taught. They are in a state of constant agitation, trying to force their will on events which they perceive threatens their sanity or way of life. There is no space in the mind to think about alternative solutions at this point. Consumed with rage and blinded by the illusion that they must be doing the right thing, they carry on throughout life with destructive actions. There is a time and a place to fight depending on the circumstance, but constantly fighting every circumstance that exists is a losing proposition.

A rational person carries out life very different from the person who fights life. A rational person is able to understand circumstances for what they are, nothing more or nothing less than what is presented. That’s how they were taught.  They understand the ebb and flow of various events throughout their lives and adjust accordingly with determination to learn, to move forward with understanding, to be reasonable, to overcome challenges, and to display strength and courage. An understanding person faces life with compassion and the desire to make the best of any situation.

Fighting life or understanding life are two crucial features that contribute to a persons disposition and probable ability to function favorably or unfavorably throughout life. Who’s responsibility is it to manage our own adult life, our children’s future, and our grandchildren’s future, because life will surely become what we have been taught, or what we ignore. We all own the responsibility for our actions and we own the responsibility for being the example that motivates the younger generation to prosper or fail.

Shysters and Snakes

Their conscience is clouded, their lies will stay with them, and they will have no peace. Yet, they can be redeemed.

Shysters and snakes love to charm and spin their tainted words and deceit with great care about forthcoming gains in quick sand that is portrayed as solid ground. They insist everything will be ok, listen to what I say, there will be no consequences, and just think of the advantages. Thats usually their line of smoke and mirrors, taking advantage of the weak and misusing their influence to feed their greed. They believe they are clever, but they have not spoken from the heart. Their conscience is clouded, their lies will stay with them, and they will have no peace. It may seem unlikely they can be redeemed, yet they can, the choice is theirs. The shyster and the snake are waiting for an opportunity to strike, keep your distance and move along. You will be glad you did.

Freinds

Problems are not expected to be solved by friends because their willingness and dedication to be by your side when you need them is the greatest comfort.

Are your friends courteous and devoted listeners to what you say? Are they considerate of your conversation and do they accept your life and significance? Are their eyes focused on you and do they understand your anxieties?  If you can answer yes to those questions, then your friends will be by your side when you need them. Problems are not expected to be solved by friends because their willingness and dedication to be by your side when you need them is the greatest comfort.

Fulfill Your Destiny

Keep your frame of mind positive, since your frame of mind becomes your future.

It only takes a minute to pause and think about your life. Resist the urge to carry out actions on impulse. Assemble your ideas with honorable thoughts, since ideas influence conversations. Deliver your conversations with a respectful tone, since your conversations influence your actions. Command your actions to be honorable, since your actions become your disposition. Make your disposition ethical,  since your disposition becomes your frame of mind. Keep your frame of mind positive, since your frame of mind becomes your future. Your future becomes your destiny. Your destiny becomes who your are. Sounds simple, it is. It’s almost so simple that we overlook the obvious. To do nothing is to remain complacent.

So, You Want To Hold A Grudge

Is a grudge worth the daily resentment that saps the life out of you? Take a minute to reflect on how short life is and how much happiness each day can bring. Want to be mad, withdrawn, or stressed out? Go ahead, hold a grudge and be miserable? It’s a choice with many side effects, whether a person is willing to admit it or not.

So you think holding a grudge gives you the advantage or evens a score. Ask yourself, “If I hold a grudge will it lift the burden of pain or disgust from my heart?” A reasonable person would say no, it does not lift any burdens or pain from my heart.

Spending some quality time on a plan to find common ground or to find a reasonable approach to reconcile a grudge often leads to compromise. A good concept is to present your concerns in a respectful, genuine manner to the offending party. Sometimes there are no perfect resolutions, but you may be able to live with agreeable variations of an imperfect outcome. If you are able to resolve a grudge, your heart will be clear and you will be free from the net that has been cast. You will feel relaxed, liberated from the daily torment that creates anger, hate, vindictiveness, and the wasteful use of time spent scheming to overpower someone by devious or spiteful means.

If attempts to resolve a grudge continues to fail, it’s time to make a decision. Do you want days, weeks, months of sulking, do you want to spend the rest of your life being perturbed, or do you want to forgive, forget, and move on? Is a grudge worth stewing over, or worth being left unresolved while festering more and more? Is it worth the daily resentment that saps the life out of you? Take a minute to reflect on how short life is and how much happiness each day can bring. Want to be mad, withdrawn, or stressed out? Go ahead, hold a grudge and be miserable? It’s a choice with many side effects, whether a person is willing to admit it or not.

From years of personal experience, I will tell you the sooner a grudge can be resolved, the better. I’ve held onto grudges that have absolutely sapped the energy right out of me for days until I finally came to the realization, this can’t go on.  Resolve your grudge, believe me a clear heart makes for a happy life and that leads to the desire to keep a clear heart.