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Stay focused, stay positive, and keep moving in a direction which contributes to kindness. Quickly put distractions in the rear view mirror, move on with determination, and stay on course.

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During the past few years I have posted many thoughts on FB and on my blog which personally came from within and from my experience with life, it’s easy anyone can do it. Some people are interested, others could care less. I would be very naive to think my opinions and experiences resonate with everyone. My intent is to build a story over time that relates to everyday occurrences in real life. For every good intentioned thought or point of view, there will always be a different perspective. Different perspectives are fine, they can ignite a change which results in positive growth, understanding, and revising an existing opinion if we are open minded.

Over the years I’ve come to accept that it is fine for people to have different opinions, after all they are entitled to them whether they fit my narrative or not. Besides, if we cannot fathom anyones’s opinion except our own, we will travel a path which leads to a narrow tunnel. We become stuck in that tunnel and unwilling to budge. Each person is responsible for the actions they initiate in their life, and everyone has the freedom of choice. It’s how we choose to implement choices that determines our progression in life and thereafter.

Differences of opinion help define our world, they can steer misguided thoughts and actions in a positive direction or they can be misguided and create discord if encouraged.  Our voyage through life is filled with agreements and disagreements. Differences are a way of life, they are bound to happen on a daily basis, that’s just the way the world operates.  If one believes whole heartedly in a concept, step forward and defend it in a rational manner.

Stay focused, stay positive, and keep moving in a direction which contributes to kindness. Quickly put distractions in the rear view mirror, move on with determination, and stay on course.

May the upcoming weekend bring peace of mind, kindness, and worship.

Now Is The Time

Lord, when we are feeble and frail, let us be able to reflect and know we did some good. Let us not look back and wish we did something when we did nothing.

Who doesn’t dream of living a long life, particularly after retirement? Everyone does, especially if that long life includes health and happiness. Unfortunately many people do not realize their dream due to physical maladies which wreak havoc on the body. They worked so hard for those they loved. Life is so very precious, each day we have the opportunity to make today a little better than yesterday whether we are still working or retired.

Retirement is embraced with great anticipation when we face challenging days on the job.  If we are fortunate to be retired, we recall the days which summoned all of our patience and skills to survive the drama surrounding working with others. We dream about how nice it would be to wake up each morning knowing we are the ones in charge of managing our time. What a wonderful feeling of freedom to rise at the break of day and realize this day is my day, I choose what I accomplish today. We survived, and we are retired.

Anytime is a good time, but retirement is a perfect time to call upon our strengths to make the world a better place for everyone. If there is some small deed we can do to resolve an issue or to make life better for others, now is the perfect time to step up to the plate. We are retired, we have time, we have resources, we have experience, we have what it takes to help others. Our time can be filled with good works and making ourself useful to others. What is the point of living through many decades if we can’t see that the world was made better because of something nice we did?

God knows we all long for freedom from a daily job. God knows we need his help. We should ask for his help to guide us in a direction that grants us the knowledge to spend our time wisely so that we are a blessing to others. Lord, when we are feeble and frail, let us be able to reflect and know we did some good. Let us not look back and wish we did something when we did nothing.

 

Time To Waste – NOT

We don’t have a moment to waste on doing nothing when we should be doing something.

Ready, set, go, we have been born into the human race and the finish line will come. In the meantime we can manage our time and grow each day in some way, we can experience something small each day that enlighten’s us. These small revelations can bring discovery, joy, and peace to our life. A huge key to life progressing in a favorable manner is to learn from mistakes, from accomplishments, from elders, from youngsters, from theologians, and from other honorable sources. As long as we are alive we can never give up, we must learn. Nobody wants to suffer failure and decline from lack of knowledge or from lack of motivation to keep all of our  bodily systems functioning at an optimal level.

We can easily understand that it does not matter how old we are or how much we achieve in life, we must continue to manage our life and be engaged in life. Sometimes it takes determination and courage to constantly try new concepts, but that is exactly what must be done in order to progress. We were destined to learn the day we were born till the day we come to the finish line. Time seems slow or swift depending on age, either way it must be managed and not ignored if progress is to be made. When we reach the age where we make our own choices, we either go up, stall, or go down. We can gain all the tools to manage life’s timetable by following  the righteous path. If we challenge ourself we are bound learn, we are bound to make life better. A moment wasted is a moment that could have made a difference in our life or someone else’s life. Manage time wisely, the alternative is simply decline. Time belongs to us, even those who have nothing, have time. Once you’ve lost it, you can not get it back. We don’t have a moment to waste on doing nothing when we should be doing something.

Overuse Of The Exclamation Point Hits Epidemic Proportions!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

An exclamation point is used to emphasize a vigorous event or commanding revelation. I begrudgingly accept that, its overuse has resulted in nothing more than just another punctuation mark or a broken nail pounded with a jackhammer at the end of any sentence.

The obsessive overuse of the exclamation point on social media and writing has become an epidemic. It has evolved into an obsession to emphatically over emphasize ordinary circumstances. An exclamation point has become mundane, misused, overused, and unexcitable. It is often misunderstood and seems interchangeable with other forms of punctuation. I openly admit I am not a professional writer nor an English major and I make mistakes in grammar frequently. A basic understanding of grammar should be sufficient to digest the proper use of the exclamation point. We all have that basic understanding, right?

An exclamation point is used to emphasize a vigorous event or commanding revelation. It is used to indicate excitability and can offer great revelations when used properly. Its overuse has resulted in a broken nail flattened with a jackhammer to drive home a point at the end of statements or it is substituted for more suitable forms of punctuation. The issue is, exclamation points are rarely used correctly and are often used to affirm emotions which have angry tones or to proclaim an unwillingness to accept another’s opinion. Many people despise the exclamation point and immediately ignore expressions of statements which have a nail pounded at the end. At no point in the English language is it ever considered ideal to use multiple exclamation points after making a statement.!!!!!!!!!!  It creates a negative interpretation because of the repeated nails flattened with a jackhammer. When a point has been made, one exclamation point is sufficient. No useful purpose is served by adding multiple nails jackhammered with an overwhelming g-force that flattens the keyboard. Multiple exclamation points can expose lazy vocabulary skills. There are a multitude of word choices available to drive home a point without using an exclamation point.

Feuding with one who has ended their statement with an emphatic exclamation point quite often begins a volley of exchanges which can quickly escalate into nonsense or swatting each other with rapid fire rants. Slow down, think about what needs to be said or written without the emphatic sledge hammer at the end of a statement. Composing a rational viewpoint which limits the possibility for turbulent exchanges and minimizes misinterpretations may take some time and diligent thought. Draft a sentence or thought that can initiate an exchange of ideas which are mutually acceptable to each party and omit the sledge hammer at the end. The outcome will result in a willingness to engage in understanding each others viewpoints and contribute to a well thought out volley of words. We want our viewpoints recognized, so minimize the use of the exclamation point, it rarely garners an exchange of words which contributes to civility and understanding.

Concise, honest, and compassionate writing along with prudent conversation helps cultivate the groundwork for humanity. Writing and speaking skills are a means of expressing our resourcefulness for ideas and a means to showcase our grammar. If one must use an exclamation point, do so in a manner that reflects excitability, civility, or in a way that transitions a persons attention to an urgent matter. and please one nail at the end is enough. The command of our English language has been hijacked by texting, using numbers for words, using individual letters for entire words, acronyms, and twisting of words. We have steadily slipped into the depths of limited vocabulary, limited knowledge of proper sentence structure, general withdrawal from proper english, and limited writing skills. Aside from that, resist the urge to pull the exclamation point out of the tool box because there are many other tools that can be used to drive home a statement.

Steve Cowgar

 

 

 

The Corrector And The Know It All

Habitual Correctors look for the slightest miscue to pounce on to assert their dominance with a gotcha moment in front of peers. Others can be Know It Alls who vehemently insist their perspective is the only way. These types of operatives are not pleasant and look at others as being unable to formulate anything that comes close to their intelligence.

Enter the constant Corrector of every perceived or real miscue a person makes and enter the Know It All who always has a better perspective on everything. We all know them, we have all been exposed to them. We do not and should never pretend to know it all.  Many of us are not professional authorities on specific topics with the exception of a few distinguished individuals. Our principles are usually based on our life experiences and our current understanding of what we are trying to convey.  It is possible to convey the wrong message, but to spring into action with constant interruptions, name calling, rudeness, or other attacks which assert superiority is unnecessary.  Sometimes critique can be quite helpful and enlightening when done with compassion, other times not so much, especially when it is forceful or quarrelsome.

Habitual Correctors look for the slightest miscue to pounce on to assert their dominance with a gotcha moment in front of peers. Others can be Know It Alls who vehemently insist their perspective is the only way. These types of operatives are not pleasant and look at others as being unable to formulate anything that comes close to their intelligence. Their mission is to assert control and belittle a person to the point of rudeness, disrespect, and sometimes to the point of violence? The Corrector and the Know It All are nauseating when they declare their way is the only way. Being full of arrogance and holding on to a sense of superiority over others vehemently interferes with the ability to be reasonable or to have a balanced conversation. We have all seen abrasive and toxic personalities destroy friendships and quell any meaningful exchange of ideas. The constant Correctors and Know It Alls have always been around, but todays environment seems to promote and encourage aggressive tactics which ignores the principles of manners, respect, and honor.

If one has witnessed or been the receiver of the pesky Corrector or Know It All, you understand it can be quite irritating and frustrating, yet it is liberating to know the high ground is available. The Correctors grunt with unending tirades of gotcha ya again and the arrogant Know It All rarely garners a compromise. Some of the best ways to deal with such behavior is to take a breath and quickly think about the meaning of life. The questions are, will this be a situation where I can bring some enlightenment, or are they bringing enlightenment which needs to be considered, is this a situation that is headed for no resolution? What will be the effect this Corrector or Know It All inflicts on me and is it worth getting caught up in? It’s ok to graciously excuse yourself from situations that became invasive, abrasive, and forceful. On the other hand, if a person is wrong and gets corrected or enlightened responsibly, there is no shame in willingly admitting a mistake.

There is no reason to become a victim to the Corrector or the Know It All who siphons the life out of everyone they come in contact with. Move on quickly and summons your spirituality, confidence, and strength to overcome remarks that forcefully seek to keep you in a prison. Meanwhile the Corrector and the Know It All revel in their superiority. They are one hundred percent convinced their assumed superiority is untouchable. Give them plenty of space, they will eventually end up in a vacuum where no friends exist. There will be no hot air for them to expel,  no wind to fill their lungs, nor an audience when they try to proclaim their victories.

Life is a continuing education, however some folks believe they know it all, they never progress past their ingrained ideologies. Most of us learn something different with each new dawn and incorporate that into our life, some don’t and that’s another story. I believe the majority of people have balanced conversations and exchange ideas in a respectful manner. There is no data available that confirms any of us get to the point where we are so perfect that we are ordained to constantly correct any and all miscues whether real or perceived. We never reach the point of being the perfect all knowing Know It All.  We are the ones in control of how we choose to react to situations that challenge our patience and perspective on anything. Never give anyone control of your values, morals, and honor because they will gobble you up like a vulture and leave the leftovers for the worms.

If a person calmly and reasonably states their case, they are bound to come out on top. Personal attacks rarely change opinions or generate camaraderie. Consider not responding further when attacks become overbearing, stick to your guns because the more a person continues the conversation, the Corrector and the Know It All will find an avenue to respond. If a person feels the need to correct or impart knowledge upon another, gently correct, do it wisely, do it with love, and please no explanation points are needed.

Feel free to correct me and if anyone knows it all, I would love to meet you. Never present yourself to be more than who your are, never be less than who you are, just be yourself. I bid you good day.

Steve Cowgar